You know that Christmas song that says “It’s the most wonderful time of the year.”
Well, some anxious kids and teens don’t necessarily agree with that. The holiday season can bring changes in routines, end of the semester exams and academic pressure, and lots of family and friend activities. And these things can inevitably add some degree of stress to life.
Here are a few strategies to help your child have a more peaceful holiday season:
- Routines are so important, especially in seasons of busyness because they provide structure and stability. Try to establish a morning routine that is similar to your school routine. It may be at a more relaxed pace but consider having the same order of events. Bedtime routines are also important because kiddos still need the same amount of sleep regardless of the hustle and bustle around them. Consider other things that your kiddos need and try to incorporate those into your schedule: rest/quiet time, outdoor/energy time, creative time, family time.
- Set a calm example. Your children will absorb your energy. If you are calm, they are more likely to be calm. Make sure that you are doing those things that you need to do to feel ok during the holiday season: practice self care strategies, try to stay organized, manage expectations, and set boundaries.
- Avoid over-scheduling. Your child/teen still needs ample downtime and time to rest. Limit the amount of activities and the amount of time spent at events to ensure that your child is not getting overstimulated and is able to rest.
- Prepare your child and talk openly about events and activities that are planned. Consider getting a visual calendar for the whole family where you add all of your family events and plans. Also, consider going over those plans and schedules at the beginning of the week, so that you don’t spring activities on your child. Giving them the heads up and setting realistic, positive expectations are important to ensure that they feel prepared for all that lies ahead.
- Focus on what is important for your family during the holiday season. It is easy to get lost in the hustle of the holidays. As a family, figure out what is important to you. Maybe it is family get-togethers, maybe it is church services, maybe it is volunteering. Focusing on those things will help your holiday season feel more authentic and help your child feel more connected to the reason that your family celebrates.
If you have used some of these strategies and your child’s stress persists or is overwhelming, professional help may be needed. If you would like to work together to help your child, please click here and complete the new client form.